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Woman's ex post pictures online

12:37 Oct 22 2014 United States

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My name is Christa, and I am a victim of revenge porn. It’s weird for me to write that because up until about 3 weeks ago, I was blissfully ignorant of the fact that this actually happened to people. It’s funny though,I actually got the November issue of Cosmopolitan Magazine with the revenge porn
article about three days before my ex-boyfriend went live with my photos. My ex emailed me at work the day he posted the pictures.

Naturally, I went into panic mode. I went from shocked, to angry, to sick, to sad and back again.
I contacted HR immediately, and they got his email address blocked. My second thought,
was “Ok, I know how to handle this.” I came home from work immediately and re-read the article.
I emailed everyone I possibly could that was affiliated with the revenge porn organizations.

I also contacted a lawyer, because my ex-boyfriend has a history of harassing behavior towards me. I
dated him for four years. The last two were rocky at best, and he was very verbally abusive.
I broke up with him in December 2011, and he has been harassing me via email, text and
Facebook for the better part of two years. This is just his latest attempt to try to make me miserable.
Of course, the lawyer suggested a PFA, but really offered little assistance.

My next step was to get the pictures copyrighted. I was able to upload the photos
right to the government website. And so now I wait…In the meantime, I fight.

I fight to live my life the way I want, not the way he thinks I will. I am not going to miss out on any
little bit of fun I might have, because if I do, that’s when he wins. I fight to not let this make me depressed
or anxious. Even if it takes help from my doctor. I fight to accept that this has happened, accept that I am
doing something about it, and accept that waiting is definitely the hardest part.

And now I fight to end revenge porn, with the thousands of other victims whose cowardly
exes tried to humiliate them and ruin their lives.

I know I am stronger than he is. I’m not going to lie - there are tears and anger and frustration,
but I will come out of this on the other side once again.
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